Happy Groundhog Day
16:54 Thursday, 3 February 2005
Words: 346
It's cold out there every day.
The point is, every day is Groundhog Day for most of us, a chance to see our own shadow and perhaps work on becoming the person we could be. Naturally, it's more complicated than that, and less. It's about extinguishing the ego. "I've killed myself so many times, I don't even exist anymore." That's the capital "I" - the ego, the thing that always desires and is never satisfied, the thing that is always about me. Once that's gone, we see it isn't about me. It's about us.
I'm not there yet. Maybe got close once or twice, then back to the wasteland with occasional day trips to anger and bargaining. Don't think I've been to denial in a long time, and don't really care to go back. But I think this time I know where I "want" to go. Rather, I think I'm ready to go where my life takes me. See? There's a bit of a difference. We'll see how true that is. Time is mostly a trick of the mind anyway.
I ordered The Little Prince from Amazon the other day. I must apologize to all my Amazon friends because I don't recall getting the opportunity to "share the love" where you are offered a 10% discount by e-mail. Maybe they dropped that feature, or maybe I didn't pay enough attention. I haven't read it in a while, but I think it's a humane response to many of the things I read that I don't agree with about the nature of our experience on the internet. It's been a while since I last read it, so it's possible I'm all wet, but it's good to read in its own right.
Just noticed I'm going to have to make room for February, but I don't have time a the moment. This permalink will change later today (2 Feb), not that I expect anyone to link to it, so it's hardly worth mentioning. But it will be incorrect once I get February up, so, whatever.
"Too early for flapjacks?"
Cheese Sandwich: Groundhog Day
16:38 Monday, 2 February 2009
Words: 1015
Well, "Happy Groundhog Day!" Apparently Punxsatawney Phil saw his shadow today, which means six more weeks of winter.
Winter or not, it was a great weekend, starting Friday night with the third annual iteration of a little get-together at Action Dave's Cool-guy Bachelor Pad, my Groundhog Day Party. (Yes, Friday was not Groundhog Day! But who wants to party on a Monday?)
Had a great turn-out, and too much food. I'm definitely changing the menu next year. Or reducing the quantities at least. The keg was a good idea, though I may go with a domestic brand next year. I went to pick up the keg of Stella and they couldn't find a "European" tap. At least, not until another employee went into the back and found it, right where they keep all the taps. Still, there were about 10 anxious minutes there.
The Wii is a big hit at parties. Wii Sports was a natural with bowling and boxing. I was a little concerned at one point that the enthusiastic boxers might actually start hitting the screen, as they seemed to move closer and closer to the TV as they "boxed." There were many reports of sore arms.
Things kept hopping till about 1:00 a.m. or so, wrapping up a little earlier than last year. Everyone seemed to have a good time, and I'm looking forward to doing it again next year; though I am glad it's only once a year!
Saturday was a day of rest because Sunday morning I intended to run 10 miles as our last long run in preparation for the half marathon on the 15th. I did do some cleanup, but mostly just enjoyed doing nothing after the frenzy of getting ready for the party.
Sunday morning came soon enough. It was a beautiful morning, though a bit cold at 38 degrees. Someone gave me a knit watch cap as a Christmas gift and it's come in very handy twice now on these early morning runs. It was low tide again, so we had six miles on the beach with a beautiful sunrise to enjoy.
We ran 10 back in November, getting ready for the Outback half-marathon on Thanksgiving, though we ran separately as my partner slept a little later than I did! But comparing our time on Sunday with my time from last November, and we came in bit over a minute faster, shaving about seven seconds off our average pace. Not as much of an improvement as I might have preferred, but we've both had challenging schedules the last few weeks and haven't been able to train as consistently as we'd have preferred.
We're registered for the National Marathon to Fight Breast Cancer (the half part of it!) on the 15th of this month, and for the Gate River Run, a 15K event about a month later on March 14th.
My partner wants to train for a marathon, thinking about the Rock 'n' Roll marathon on May 31st, which is close to her birthday. I had no intention of running it with her, but I said I'd train for it with her. Well, in my somewhat more, er, lubricated state of enthusiasm Friday evening, I allowed as how I might actually go ahead and run it with her! Well, there are a couple of complicating factors that make it a bit of an open question for both of us at this point, but I think it's our intention to go ahead and train and decide whether to actually go as we get closer to the event, and the other situations resolve themselves.
I have to say, 26.2 miles remains a long drive to me, and the thought of trying to actually run that distance gives me great pause. Also somewhat daunting is the level of commitment necessary to train to complete it successfully. We have enough time, given where we are right now. But I would probably have to double the amount of effort that I'm putting in now, plus make some lifestyle changes. ("Lifestyle changes" being another way of saying "partying a lot less.") May 31st is two days before my 52nd birthday, which is 2x26, and while a coincidence of no particular import, it nevertheless has something of an inspirational quality. It would be another milestone achievement in my increasingly advancing age! (I know running marathons at 52 is not a particularly unique or remarkable thing. Except in the context of my heretofore relatively sedentary existence.) Finally, flying all the way to the left coast to do all this seems a bit much, but it is the Rock 'n' Roll Marathon, so truly, it would rock, and that's how I roll. (Okay, please stop groaning now.)
Anyway, more to follow on that score, I'm sure.
Following the run, I just relaxed and watched a movie, later packing up all the leftover food and the keg with the help of some friends and heading over to the clubhouse to watch the Super Bowl with neighbors. The game was great. I was kind of rooting for the Steelers, though I've been impressed and inspired by Kurt Warner's performance this season. ("Old guys rule!") So I had conflicting emotions. While I'm happy the Steelers won, I'm also amazed at Warner's numbers, especially against that defense. The little Springsteen concert was great, making up somewhat for the lack of any particularly entertaining commercials. (And where were you supposed to get those 3D glasses anyway? Shows how much attention I've been paying!)
So it was an altogether wonderful weekend with some truly great people. I'm a very lucky man, and happy to be at this place in my life. Groundhog Day has a lot of meaning for me. As a tag line I once had around here said, "It's about seeing your shadow." I finally saw mine, with some help from a very wise woman, and while I had several more "weeks of winter" in my life as well, so far it's been a beautiful spring.
Okay, back to being a crotchety old curmudgeon...
Competing Messages: Mind or Preference?
20:22 Thursday, 2 February 2006
Words: 1817
Doc responded to the Cluetrain Ticket post, and his response suggests that there will be more to follow. I look forward to that, but I think his first response, and that of Mike Warot, offer some things to consider.
I challenged Doc to offer an example of how a weblog changed his mind, and he offers several here. At the risk of being accused of moving the goal-posts, I'll say right now that I probably should have been more specific. Nevertheless, Doc's first example is an interesting one.
When I challenged Doc's assertion, made in the context of an instance when Jay Rosen's weblog "changed his mind," I was thinking of something a little more substantial than an immediate response to a particular event. In that context, I will concede that a weblog post, or a private conversation, or a sharp stick in the eye can change anyone's mind.
Think about the circumstances for a moment. An event happens, information regarding that event is conveyed to us by some means, and we form a perception of that event. The initial processing of that perception is chiefly emotional. I won't try to prove that here, if you wish to disbelieve that, by all means do so. But you might want to check your work. In any event, we have an emotional reaction to an event, much as Doc did to the interview of Bill O'Reilly by Terry Gross. We reason backward from our feelings, which allows us to articulate, in some fashion, a presumably rational basis for the emotional response. What we're compelled to express by custom and habit, especially men, is the rationalization, rather than the feeling. (Anyone who's been to marriage counseling will probably recognize this.) The feeling is very likely completely legitimate. If you already don't like Bill O'Reilly (I don't, I don't know how Doc feels.), and if you already like Terry Gross (I do, I don't know how Doc feels.), and you listen to the interview, you're not going to feel very charitable to Bill O'Reilly, and that's all quite okay. We're certainly entitled to our feelings.
Doc was presented with additional information from Jay Rosen, and a perception was formed through what is essentially an emotional process, and Doc was faced with what appeared to be a conundrum. What Doc articulated about his perception of the event between Terry Gross and Bill O'Reilly was a rationalization of a feeling. The feelings are almost always legitimate, the rationalizations are sometimes inadequate in a broader context. In addition, Doc seems to like Jay Rosen, so he was likely disposed to regard the information he received from him in a positive emotional context, and to the extent that the feelings he experienced reading Rosen differed from the feelings he experienced listening to O'Reilly and Gross, he experienced what was, to his mind, a conflict.
But if you read Doc's initial commentary on what happened with Bill O'Reilly on that episode of Fresh Air, and then read his subsequent post wherein he says he has "changed his mind," I can't find where he's articulating something in the second post that is fundamentally opposed to the first. To my reading, he's talking about two essentially different things, and neither one directly contradicts the other. Doc may say he "changed his mind," but I would say that he's merely offering an inadequate rationalization of the feelings he experienced reading Rosen's piece.
Perhaps I'm misreading all of this, I certainly have my own point of view. But I would ask Doc to point out something in his original post on the event that is directly contradicted by something Jay Rosen wrote, and then to point out in his subsequent post where he specifically repudiates a position or assertion from his first post. I can't see where he does. Rosen offers another point of view, one that is more informed by knowledge of political history, one that has greater insight, perhaps, into Bill O'Reilly's mind, but nothing that explicitly contradicts anything Doc posted. Rosen's piece is not unsympathetic to Gross, in any way that I can detect. I would say it's sympathetic, while also critical, in a more informed way than Doc's was; but I don't see a contradiction that leads Doc to say he "changed his mind."
Now, others have mentioned this before and so I don't feel too uncomfortable offering this, but it seems to me that Doc is, in addition to being something of a quasi-pacifist, someone who is genuinely conflict-averse. I can't say if that's a good or a bad thing, but I think it informs much of Doc's perception and thinking. Presented with different information regarding the same event that evoked different feelings, Doc detected a conflict and rather than examine that potential conflict, Doc yielded and said he "changed his mind."
I don't think he changed his mind at all, nor do I detect any reason why he should he have.
I'm not saying this proves weblogs don't change minds, I'm just saying I think this is a bad example because it's orthogonal to the question under consideration. If I'm wrong, I'm sure Doc will set me straight. I could be wrong.
I thought the example of Doc's views on pacifism was revealing. Especially the part where he offers, "But as for being a pacifist of the nonviolence school to which I used to belong... well, I have doubts now. It's not a subject I'm eager to write about, but there it is."
I would say that this too is not a good example. It would be a good example, if Doc didn't have doubts, or could write about it easily. It may be an example of Jay Rosen's interpretation of Doc's assertion that blogs are about "making and changing minds," that one not become "wedded" to one's views; but I think Doc's discomfort sort of argues against even that. In short, I would say that Doc isn't quite sure of his own mind here, and there's nothing wrong with that either. Until the day when there is; but that's another story.
With regard to the Craig Burton issue about dropping packets while live blogging, okay, I'll spot him that one. Pretty trivial though, wouldn't you agree? Hardly worthy of "a phrase that launched a thousand links."
Juan Cole? Are you sure it wasn't Jeff Jarvis who "changed your mind" on that one? I'm sure it was pretty hard for most people to stand fast before the alliterative authority and persuasive percussive power of the "Professor Pondscum" appellation. In any event, even if it was Mike Sanders, for whom I have much higher regard than the one with his own alliterative appellation, I suspect that it's the kind of issue that you might once again change your mind about, were you to actually meet Juan Cole. Again, I'll spot Doc this one as an example, but I'd file a protest that it's trivial and inconclusive.
I'm more interested in how un-wedded Doc is to things like "markets are conversations." Maybe we'll hear more about that later.
Mike Warot offered a couple of posts on this subject today. I'll just deal with the first one.
- 5 - oh... back to beliefs, and how they change.
Dave and others offer a refreshing view of the world. I wouldn't have found Dave except as a result of my interaction with the blog-o-sphere... and I'm glad I found him.
I now spend a ton less time trying to be in the first 100 posts on slashdot, and spend about the same amount of time, overall, here on this blog. I'm finding it to be a worthwhile trade for me.
I find myself open to more views, and also more careful about how and what I say. I think this will have an overall positive effect on me in the long run.
First, it's flattering to read that you're glad you found Groundhog Day. Just don't get too comfortable, I manage to piss off just about everyone sooner or later. But thanks anyway, sincerely.
I appreciate Mike's sentiment, though I don't see a lot that specifically supports the notion that blogs can "make and change minds." I agree with the positive effect of being open to more views, and being more careful about how and what is said. I can't say I uniformly adhere to that myself.
But here's the thing. Let's say you read something in a book or a weblog and it "opens your eyes," or something to that effect. That's a way of saying that it "changed your mind," is it not? There is an entire industry devoted to self-help books, and from my own informal, subjective observation of the amount of shelf space occupied at Books-a-Million, it shows no signs of putting itself out of business. Think about it for a minute. If all those books were as good as all those cover blurbs say they are, if even one percent of them were, I'd say they'd be putting themselves out of business in no time.
They're not going out of business, and they won't be anytime soon. Consider this, if blogs could make and change minds, wouldn't Bush or Kerry have won the last election with a more commanding margin? That's probably giving weblogs far too much credit, but if you're going to consider weblogs, then you probably have to factor in talk radio, and mainstream news media as well. Not too many minds being changed either way, I'd say.
What often happens is we read or hear something that has an emotional appeal to us, and we reason backward from our feelings to rationalize it, to explain our feelings to ourselves. We don't often examine those good feelings critically. Why should we? Feeling good is - good!
So you read The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, and you think, "Wow! What a great book!" As I did. You'll believe it really changed your mind about a lot of things. And you'll think it can change your life. And for a little while, maybe it does. But chances are, you'll always regard it as a great book, and you'll always believe the insights in it are valid or true, but it will never change your life. Because a book can't do that.
You have to.
And that is far harder than you can imagine.
Not for everyone, probably. But for most of us, it's really, really hard. It depends, I suppose.
Changing your mind is relatively easy. It's just a new rationalization for a new or an old feeling. It's only meaningful if it changes your life.
You have to pay attention and you have to do the work. And the rest of the world is competing with you for your attention, so chances are, you never start to do the work.
Just think about it.
Social Hygiene: Don't Forget to Wear Your Booties
05:12 Thursday, 2 February 2006
Words: 14
"'...cause it's cold out there!"
"It's cold out there every day."
Happy Groundhog Day!